Who says men are not into hugs and cuddling?
It’s a myth-breaking time: some guys enjoy snuggling in their partner’s arms and love to hold their loved one back. Studies show that most young and middle-aged gentlemen like and yearn for cuddles even more than women do.
What’s Not To Like About Cuddling?
At Gentleman Zone, we preach one of the simple joys of a relationship, and it feels so nice. Other than a range of health and mood benefits (aiding sleep, soothing depression, etc.), cuddling also boosts sexual activity and increases comfort in your own body.
Physical Intimacy is Essential to Healthy Romantic Relationships
When cuddling, couples have quality time and strengthen their relationship. Embracing your partner is a touching act and a non-sexual, non-verbal way to connect with them. Cuddles are a love language all their own.
Cuddling is a natural human behavior that has evolved over time. The tango of cuddling dates back to ancient times, when couples would lie down together and sleep.
Today, cuddling is the standard for intimacy between people who want to express their love, closenessl and affection.
Stereotype Roots Of Men Who Hate To Cuddle
Lads often wonder what’s the right thing to do or say while cuddling. That makes one awkward and nervous, so most just avoid it or hesitate to go for it themselves.
Cuddling is No Rocket Science
It happens naturally when you feel like it. However, there are tips and tricks to nourish comfort and intimacy.
Besides, ladies appreciate it when guys express delight while cuddling, and especially gents who initiate snuggles and physical contact, themselves.
& read ahead to find the best cuddle positions and helpful tips for guys while cuddling, so you can show yourself as a real gentleman and make your romantic partner feel loved and valued.
Set the Mood
Cuddling is usually a spontaneous and unplanned act of your emotions towards a close person. But it’s certain it’s more likely to happen in a comfortable and intimate atmosphere.
With that said, it’s a good idea to put in the effort and set up a warm and inviting ambiance, so your date feels safe and special.
A few suggestions to consider.
Create a Cozy Spot
- Throw a soft, warm blanket and some cushions on your sofa or bed to make the perfect snuggling area, so you get comfortable with your partner.
- Light and place some candles around.
Adjust Warm Lighting
- Avoid fluorescent bulbs with strong white light, because they easily kill the mood.
- Instead, dim the lights to an enjoyable level, or turn them off, leaving the candles only for a romantic feel.
Custom Neon Signs
Decorations create an atmosphere!
With their unique light effects, custom neon signs can enhance the romantic atmosphere and make your date more harmonious. You can put some in your living or bedroom, and best of all, you can design one yourself, so they make personal sense, too!
Play a Nice Movie or Song Playlist
- Choose a pleasant movie that enhances the romantic and snuggling mood.
- As an alternative, just play a love song playlist for a chill night.
It’s best to pick your girl’s favorite movie or music album to incline her. That’s a sure sign of being the gentleman in a relationship, isn’t it?
Prep Snacks & Drinks
- Arrange a small corner with some snacks, sweets, and drinks close to you.
It’s an insignificant gesture to impress your lady or gent. Plus, you won’t have to get up later when hungry and thus interrupt your snuggle.
Look & Act Your Best
Needless to say, it’s mandatory to be neat, smell good, have a fresh breath, and all that gentlemen jazz.
- Wear a clean and comfy outfit and style your hair.
This certainly makes a good impression on your date and helps you feel more confident.
Cuddle Slow
Grabbing your loved one in your arms all at once is charming and passionate, but starting slow with gestures that express your affection is always nice and enticing, especially if you two just started dating.
- Slide up close to your partner and hold hands. Or place your hand around the waist, back, or leg to express fondness and your intention.
- Caress your girl’s shoulders, neck, and cheeks to show you enjoy and value her presence.
- Do a little rubbing. Lightly massage your partner to make them comfortable and relaxed and to prolong the intimate and warm feeling of physical affection.
Experiment with Different Cuddling Positions
Now let’s go through the coziest cuddling positions, so you learn how to cuddle like a professional.
Side by Side
As you are as close as possible to one another with your hands all around each other, lean your head on your date’s shoulder or gently touch the face.
This cuddling position is reassuring, comforting, and intimate, yet not necessarily sexual and leaves an option to slip out naturally and not make a big deal of it – appropriate for a new relationship.
Head on Lap
Sit on one end of the couch or bed, or just on the floor, and let your girlfriend lie down and rest her head in your lap.
Play with her hair, put your arms around her and caress her. Of course, it’s also pleasant for both of you if you’re the one to lay in her lap.
This form of snuggling provides a feeling of deep comfort and connection.
Seated Hug
Sit comfortably and tightly with one another, and let your hips touch.
- Wrap your hand around your partner’s shoulders.
- Let someone lay head on your chest and snuggle up.
- Rest your cheek on their head.
This makes the perfect couch cuddle that creates a sense of closeness.
Lounge Chair
- Sit back on the bed headboard or a wall.
- Have your loved one nestle between your legs and lean back.
Pro-tip: Give a nice neck and shoulder massage to build up the sense of comfort.
Classic Spoon
Classic spooning is one of the most sexual positions and amorous activities that creates a feeling of intimacy and closeness unseen in other forms of snuggling.
- Basically, one partner is the “big spoon” and embraces the other one – “the small spoon”, who rubs their back against the “big spoon”.
It’s such a pleasurable and sensitive pose, regardless of whether you’re the big spoon or the small. But more often the gent is the big spoon.
So, when you’re spooning your other half,
- kiss on the neck,
- run fingers through your loved one’s hair,
- rubbing thighs,
- whisper in my ear
- do what you desire for extra pleasure.
The romantic spooning position leads to an increased sense of unity, safety, comfort, and often to gentleman sex, considering full-body contact.
Half Spoon
The half spoon cuddling is an intimate form of the classic spoon, where you lie on your back and your girl is on her side next to you.
- Get him or her to snuggle up into the crook of your arm and rest her upper body part and arm on your chest.
Half spoon is an intimate sign of true love and closeness in a couple. It induces a closer bond in the couple.
Head on Chest
As you’re lying next to each other, have your partner rest their head on your chest and wrap their arms around your body. Or, you do the same with them.
This is quite an intimate pose between lovers, and the sound of the heartbeat contributes to a strong feeling of deep and real connection.
T-Cuddle
Lie on your back and let your girl rest her head on your tummy, or vice versa, to form a “T”.
When you have your partner lying on you, caress and fondle him or her for maximum delight.
The T-position is sweet and creates an opportunity to talk, and can lead to more intimate contact.
Booty Pillow
When your girlfriend or boy is tummy down, rest on her booty as if it’s a pillow, or the other way around.
But cheeks are among the erogenous zones, and this cuddle form can be quite arousing. It’s a fun and pleasurable cuddling variation for both lovers, especially before and after sex.
Horizontal Hug
Another close-contact cuddle pose is the horizontal hug, also known as frontal cuddle.
Together with your partner, lie on your sides, embracing each other and wrapping yourselves around one another.
Similar to spooning, this cuddling position is passionate and sexual, allows intimate eye contact and kissing, and is often part of the foreplay.
Layer-Up
A cozy form of intimacy, the layered-up cuddle, is when you have your loved one lie face-down on top of you, or you crawl on her back while she’s on her tummy.
It’s the perfect position to create warmth that drifts you away and even prompts you to go to bed. Add a quality sleep drink to the mix and R&R is guaranteed.
Legs Touching
If things get a little too steamy, this position is perfect to get more airflow and space between you and your partner.
While you’re laying separately, wrap your legs around your partner’s legs to still keep in contact and let them know you’re there to provide protection and comfort.
Butt Position
The butt-to-butt cuddle method is another one for when you need some space but still want to maintain closeness with your partner.
Joy & Benefits of Cuddling
Close physical touch and emotional contact with another person is healthy, and there is a scientific reason for that, specifically brain biochemistry.
When you cuddle with someone dear to you, your pituitary gland secretes the hormone oxytocin (the cuddle hormone) and other feel-good hormones that make you feel loved and connected, but also have a range of health benefits.
- Reduces stress and anxiety.
- Boost your immune system.
- Aids the formation of blood cells that fight diseases.
- Decreases cortisol levels that increase blood sugar.
- Reduces cytokines that cause inflammation.
- Lowers blood pressure.
- Relieves pain.
- Helps communicate better.
So, that’s why the more you cuddle with your loved one, the healthier and happier you are!
Cuddling & Guys, Wrap-Up
Contrary to stereotypes, most gentlemen love cuddling with their partners. If you’re one of those and want to show affection to your girlfriend or boyfriend, follow our detailed guide to learn how to cuddle like a real gentleman and make your special one feel loved and cherished.
Next form physical intimacy – the missionary position, haha.
